‘Maturity’ is a very relative term. While one might think cracking jokes on farting men and burping women is hilarious to others it might seem immature and crass. While some think growing up is all about rules, regulations and setting examples others consider it a chance to retain the child within.
In the larger context of society, however, maturity is linked to a certain responsible behavior which lets people co-exist peacefully. It is a thought which exercises restraint in order to make space for another individual to create a little room for himself or herself.
The gender debate on whether women are more mature than men has been going on since forever, and knowing the gender-politics tendencies, it is not hard to predict that it will go on for a very long time.
Coming straight on to what scientific studies have to say (though the ‘maturity’ gene never was found!) – The scales do tilt in favor of the fairer sex. Different studies average onto values – that women generally mature around the age of 32 and men around 43.
While biology supports that fact, that sexually girls grown 2 years before a boy her age does, it gets difficult to place a finger on one scale with full conviction for terms best left to personal interpretation-like maturity. But on research, based on opinions of men and women, both women and men agree that women mature faster than men, in majority.
In the larger context of society, however, maturity is linked to a certain responsible behavior which lets people co-exist peacefully. It is a thought which exercises restraint in order to make space for another individual to create a little room for himself or herself.
The gender debate on whether women are more mature than men has been going on since forever, and knowing the gender-politics tendencies, it is not hard to predict that it will go on for a very long time.
Coming straight on to what scientific studies have to say (though the ‘maturity’ gene never was found!) – The scales do tilt in favor of the fairer sex. Different studies average onto values – that women generally mature around the age of 32 and men around 43.
While biology supports that fact, that sexually girls grown 2 years before a boy her age does, it gets difficult to place a finger on one scale with full conviction for terms best left to personal interpretation-like maturity. But on research, based on opinions of men and women, both women and men agree that women mature faster than men, in majority.
It hardly is a surprise then, that a lot of women prefer dating older men. The reason is simple: older men are more of a match for their maturity than men their age. There are a lot many examples to quote of the typical ‘cradle-snatcher’, as the man involved in such relationships was known some time back. Hugh Hefner and Crystal Harris have a shocking 60 year age difference between them. There’s Cary Grant and Barbara Harris-47 year difference, JD Salinger and his wife- 40 years; Clint Eastwood, Woody Allen, Eric Clapton, Frank Sinatra are other famous names in the older-man list.
Women, as is a known fact, are stability-seekers. And usually, men their age cannot provide that kind of stability- both emotionally and financially. Men in the latter part of their lives have grown stable with their years and this attracts women to them. Also, they’re more sensitive and experienced in bed and know how to please a woman. Another reason for the rising number of this kind of relationships is that women claim they can have more intellectually stimulating conversations with older men.
The direct impact of the woman being more mature than the man is on the relationships they’re involved with. Because women believe they’re more mature and men easily agree on it too, gleeful to play the Cricket-lover, lazy, dirty lad always, in most romantic relationships, women tend to take charge and become the ‘mommy’ of the relationships. The dominating mother like attitude can become imposing and can lead to conflicts.
A woman’s maturity in a marriage can also bring about stability to their lives. Boys will be boys always, they say. Maybe nature has its plan in mind and it has designed humans purposely this way.
Maybe man needs to be guided around by a woman his age, but more mature than him…!!
It would be unfair to not mention though that maturity does largely depend from individual to individual. And stereotyping on the basis of gender does not make complete sense.
Woman are absolutely not more mature than men.
ReplyDeleteI remember my dad clowning around and we loved it as kids while mom rolled her eyes. We thought her a wet blanket.
He had been in the military, had a job, cooked better than her and taught me how to do my chores. He was a clean and tidey individual too.
I grew up and my husband told me to grown up umpteen times for clowning around with my sons. I had my mature moments, but am high energy and love kids.
I laugh when I think of how many immature women I know who can cry at the drop of a hat to get their own way, and at work and how if you disagree with them it is hell to pay.
Sure there are men who are immature, I just read of a man who was kicked out of the Navy and he couldn't sweet talk them like he did women. Or have them make excuses for him like his parents. They spoiled him but not the man's world of the Navy. He was spoilt. However, I was glad my mom protected us and spoke up when dad got a bit ridiculous like letting his friends come over and get drunk. One of those men made a pass at me and mom stopped the partying. He listened to her and they partied elsewhere-not her home with us kids around. Both sexes are necessary and have their strengths and weaknesses.