Women against Women - The Dark Side of the Female Gender

In a world where for years it has been said that a man keeps a woman down, the bitter truth is slowly surfacing- the dark side of the female gender where we see how a woman is another woman’s worst enemy.

Women against women is a subject that hasn’t been brought to light or talked about often, for we as a society are so caught up in the gender bias, we look only at how women are treated by the opposite gender. The truth of the matter is that women have come a long way - they are at par with men, they are educated, they make a lot of money, they are talented and they are strong. Agreed! But what about a woman’s psychology towards another woman; do we really talk about that? The answer is no.

The Dark Side
As sad as it is, a woman’s psychology is such that she counts someone else’s sorrows and blessings instead of focussing on her own. She is more interested in others business rather than her own. She meddles in others issues even when she has no connection with it whatsoever. She often finds pleasure in interfering in others matters when she doesn’t really have a say in things. Why? Does it give her anything? Where did the concept of ‘gossip is stress busting’ originate? Women might believe that these things give them pleasure, freedom and so on and so forth; but to be honest, a woman who consumes herself in such activities is nothing but unhappy, insecure and jealous.

The Urban Versus the Rural
It is said that a woman finds the ultimate confidant or BFF in another woman; that she shares every detail regarding her life and understands all difficulties befallen on womankind. It is said that only a woman can understand the pain of another of her kind. Is that really true? 

Let us take an example- have you ever noticed how urban women look down upon rural women and how rural women don’t think urban women belong to their world? It is true. We treat our household help like she doesn’t deserve the respect, care, love and support that we (as the ‘memsaab’) do. On one hand we talk about equality and women empowerment and the upliftment of women. And on the other hand, we are the ones who yell on, scheme against and sabotage our own kind.

How many of us know how old our housekeeper is, how many children she has, how old these children are, what their names are, if they go to school, what her husband does, if they are all insured….leave alone what her dreams are. It is taken for granted that a rural woman has no dreams, that she has no aspirations, leave alone an existence. She spends her days making sure your world is a comfortable place, only to be ridiculed if she makes the minutest of mistakes. Unlike urban women, these rural women have no education, no financial stability and they are lower paid, made to do all the dirty household work.

Same is the case when we talk of rural women and what they think of urban women. A rural woman might feel that an urban woman has no pudicity or modesty. For a rural woman, an urban woman is too modern in her outlook, only caring about her lifestyle and her profession, ignoring her duties and responsibilities towards her house and her family.

Mothers versus Mother-In-Laws
The greatest love of a mother’s life is her child and maybe that is the reason that mothers do not want to let go of their children even after they grow up. We see that even though the world has come such a long way and women can do everything a man can, parents tend to still want to protect and hold back their daughters. Why?

A mother feels the need to call up her daughter five times a day to know where she is, who she’s with, what she’s doing and if she’s alright. It is a mother’s heart, agreed, but why not give your daughter the freedom to explore on her own and be her own person? A mother wants to spend her life shadowing her daughter, believing that her kid must get the best of education, but be married off at the age of 23 and have kids soon after.  Why is it that a mother-in-law feels that she can live her daughter-in-laws life for her and dictate terms at every corner?

We want an educated girl for our boy, but when we do get one, we want her to sit at home and be a homemaker.  We want that no matter how well-read a girl is, she never talk back or voice her opinions. Why is that? It is but such a paradox to see how women bind their own kind with redundant thoughts- a mother wanting to forever protect her daughter and a mother-in-law wanting to suppress her daughter-in-law.

The New Bully at the Workplace
Men are not the only bullies at work, in fact women are worse as they lay traps, sharpen their elbow and notch up their attack. A recent study stated that 70% of times, women choose other women as a target at the workplace. They often have negative, foul things to say about other successful women for the simple reason that they feel their territory is being invaded, instantly making their defenses go up. This is the reason women instantly critique other women and deduce plausible explanations to why they are better than their female counterparts. Instead of being nurturers and comforters, like we were born to be, women are turning into competitive, brutal and fixated creatures. A woman’s incessant desire for being on top of the game is slowly killing her loyal and true side.

So you see, in a world where so called Feminists are waging wars against men and the way they treat Indians, we as a society hide under covers the way women treat women. It’s time to make a stand; it’s time to finally acknowledge the dark side of the female psyche and address this issue that is in no way less important when we talk of New Age radical ideas.