There Is Nothing Wrong With The Body

Women, since time immemorial, have been considered a fitting counterpart to their male partner. Nature has created man and woman to complement each other so that life on earth can be continued forever and ever. So, it is actually a design of the Almighty Creator to generate an irresistible attraction between man and woman.

Though it is not often spelled out, most women secretly crave to get their physical beauty attested by their man. Though it appears simple; often held as a Law of Nature for a man to get attracted towards the female body, there are underlying complexities that need to be explored, especially in an orthodox societal setup like India where indecent body exposure by women is considered a taboo.

Why males are psychologically attracted towards female body?

According to psychological theories, a man is attracted towards a female body that shows all signs of maturity and fertility. Men are by no means superficial. But the brain of a man is wired uniquely to get drawn towards the physical cues a woman’s body sends. Psychologically, a man is instantly drawn towards a woman he considers brimming with female hormones to give him healthy off springs.

There are certain physical features of overwhelming fertility in a woman’s body that arouses a man; such as smooth skin, lustrous hair, full lips, large eyes, full breasts, low waist-hip ratio, slim body etc. Also, some theories say that a woman who has a fabulous body can attract the attention of any man if she dons a red attire. Seema Hingorrany, a reputed psychologist says, “Men are attracted to a female body clad in red. Red is the colour of passion and is usually associated with love, erotica and mood elevation”.

If a man abuses a female body, it’s a man’s fault, not a woman’s

The recent trends show that men, rather than appreciating the beauty of woman in the real sense of the term, are literally abusing it. Incidents of rape, molestation and incest are on the rise in our country and this indicates how the men of today are viewing a woman’s body with lustful eyes only to ravish it and ravage it. It’s true that love starts with an attraction towards the body, which then passes on to a stage of deep affection and emotional bonding. But here it’s all lust, no love at all!

When men can’t dominate women otherwise, taking advantage of our male dominated social setup gives them a chance to exploit her and derogate her by attacking her physically.

It may seem hard to believe so, but there is actually no need for a woman to feel uncomfortable with her body. Women’s body is the most beautiful, rather the most unique creation of Almighty. So should a woman feel conscious about her god given gifts only because of a handful of perverts and deprive herself of the joy and pride of owning a beautiful body? The problem lies with those perverted males, not with her.

Every woman is uniquely beautiful

Each and every woman is beautiful in her own way and should try to maintain her beauty not for the world, but for her own sake. ‘Beauty’ is a very relative term. The definition of feminine beauty varies from person to person. If you take the bodily beauty of a woman, God has given every single woman some distinct attributes that will win over the heart of the right man. For instance, some women have a beautiful face, some have an attractive figure; some have dreamy eyes that can look right in to the soul, while others could have long lustrous envy generating hair or could have a beautiful smile.

Thus every woman is beautiful but only the right kind of man can appreciate it. ‘Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’; so it is important for every woman to find out what her best features are, and then accentuate these with pride without the fear of being exploited for the same.

Why women seek for men’s appreciation psychologically?

In India where the status of women has always been considered subservient to men, women psychologically feel that until and unless a man compliments them on their looks and body, it’s useless to dress up and beautify their own selves. A man’s acknowledgement of their beauty has gone so deep into their psyche that they can’t think of adorning themselves for their own sake.

This situation is not restricted to India alone. Psychological studies prove that women have a strong emotional dependence on males and from that emotional dependence springs their need to be appreciated by men.

So what a woman really needs to do is salute her own self and consider her body as holy as a temple!

A woman needs to appreciate herself first; it’s crucial!

We are working much towards women liberation, bringing out long protest rallies against physical violence on women and so on. But everything turns futile if a woman still continues to underestimate herself. It is she who first has to appreciate herself; close all doors to self-pity or remorse and take care of her body considering it as a marvellous gift from Almighty Creator because it is a woman’s  body alone that has uniquely been created to beget children and continue the human race on earth.

It’s time to change the trend.... It’s time to look beautiful because it makes you feel better about yourself, not because you want to fetch compliments from the opposite sex!